Posted by pegasus on March 17, 2004, at 0:07:48
In reply to Another day, another fifty cents or so, posted by All Done on March 16, 2004, at 21:41:44
Yuck. The only thing worse than hating work is hating home. I'm sorry your boss is a jerk. I know how crazy-making that can be.
Are your obessive thoughts about work really obsessive as in OCD type obsessions? I ask because I've struggled with really irrational pervasive obsessions in the past. I wish I had some great advice, but I don't really. For what it's worth, here are some things that helped me somewhat in getting obsessive thoughts to take a break (never for long, but a little break is better than nothing.)
Try creating a time or place that can be where you are allowed to obsess about it, and try really hard when thoughts come up outside of that context to acknowledge your thoughts and then tell yourself that you'll postpone the thought until you are there. The key is you have to be gentle with yourself about it.
When the obessive thoughts come up, try coloring them a particular color. For example, I used to obsess about traffic noise. So when I'd notice myself thinking about it, I'd say to myself, ok, there's one of those blue thoughts. For some reason, this helped.
Try writing down every thing you hate about your boss. Then when you're done, tell yourself you're done and now you get a break from thinking about it. Then try to just really notice what's going on at home (or wherever) and how much you like it.
If your thoughts are just normal "something is really bothering me" thoughts, I don't know if these will work. But you might try them anyway! Good luck! It sounds so hard, and I hope you are able to find a way to dread your job less.
- p
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