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frustrated trying to help strangers (strategies?)

Posted by cybercafe on March 7, 2004, at 4:38:54

well now that i am all better i want to go to the local support group and offer people hope (i also promised i would return even if i got better)... though i'm more focused on money, women, and acne now, heh

anyways i get really frustrated when two things happen .... basically i try to offer people LIFE ALTERING advice .... people who are stuck in this stupid cycle where they don't know what an SSRI is and have no idea how to help themselves ... and people who need a doctor, a consultation, a better pdoc ....

okay call me an arrogant prick for thinking i know what's best for others.... and if someone has been through ECT 20 times and still has depression maybe there is nothing i can do to help them

but so many times i try to urge people to go to dr. bob's site (actually met a nice lady IRL who says she goes here, heh, quite a coincidence) or at least pick up a book or ask questions or write down the names of their meds or DO SOMETHING to put effort into making themselves better but people just aren't interested... and its not like "i'm too depressed to do anything right now " which i could understand but it's like "knowing all this stuff about medication won't make any difference" or "i don't want to do it" ........it just seems like you have to if you want to get better....

another thing that bugs me is my pdoc is really really really good ... it took me 7 years to find him.... really smart, plus not busy... and i try to encourage people to see him rather than do nothing but they just seem so apathetic.... i guess it makes me wonder if anyone else out there suffers at all ("i gained 2 pounds on prozac so i decided i would rather live with the depression" -- THATS NOT DEPRESSION!!!!! okay, 5, 10,+ pounds i could understand)

i just feel like i know whats best for people and they don't (yeah very arrogant i know but the truth is... the more i listen to people in real life make stupid comments like "Nardil... thats an SSRI" the more i feel like hitting them over the head with a lead pipe and dragging them to my doctors office .... cuz i just cannot stand needless suffering) all these people suffering for nothing .......... i understand some people have tried everything and just have to learn to live with it and i wouldn't presume to give them advice.... but don't go through life suffering, thinking there is no treatment for say anxiety or depression when you havnt even tried an MAOI or tricyclic

it is just such a waste.... i would be willing to make app'ts for people and even drive them to the doc if only they would open their mind instead of ??? god knows what they think... perhaps "accepting their illness" which sounds really good but not if it leaves you miserable and not if you can easily make a few adjustments (through knowledge or better doc) and EXPAND your life to include so much more .... i know i have and well ... ! hmmmmmm... maybe i am offended that people ARGUE with my personal experience .... "you can't believe anything you read on the internet" ......... i guess i should reply "oh you're right .... my recovery was based on information that i got from.... my psychic powers?!"

maybe i'll push the local support group leader to stick a terminal with doctor this website on it in the support group room..... i mean i could argue for hours about how this website makes all the difference between people not knowing what to suggest to their doc/expect from meds/deal with side effects/that their doc is a moron and they should fire him immediately

i really like the idea of hitting people over the head and forcing them to educate themselves/see a good doc...... i just don't have any patience, but maybe that's just my ADD
(of course i'm joking guys)


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