Posted by shar on April 2, 2003, at 21:46:08
In reply to Why should the man pay?, posted by gabbix2 on April 2, 2003, at 16:30:58
I agree, but then I'm an old feminist. I always ask (most agreeably) if I can contribute. Then it's not like 50-50 (tho my 'contribution' may well be 50%), and it seems to diffuse any tension that might have occurred. If someone says no (and no man has ever said no), then next time it's my treat. I also offer to leave the tip if it looks like 'contributing' isn't gonna fly.
I have more fights with my goilfriends about this issue than I ever did with fellas. 8-D
Shar
> Its an honest question. I don't understand why its up to the man to pay if a womans working.
> I would sure like it if a man paid, but I'd not expect it. It seems like holding onto the traditions that are convenient for us and getting angry about the ones we don't like (women being paid less for example)
>
> I meant that as a question though, really.
> I'm open to hearing different sides.
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