Re: compliments---Alii

Posted by shar on August 28, 2002, at 0:34:24

In reply to Re: compliments » *alii*, posted by Ted on August 28, 2002, at 0:03:39

You are right on. That is the only way to accept a compliment, imo. It doesn't mean one has to believe it, but it does honor the 'goodwill' that someone feels toward you in order to give the compliment. A smile, a thank you, and sometimes a comment (I'm so pleased to hear that), is how I finally learned to go with it (from Miss Manners).
She also has a lovely way of handling insults, like if someone says your baby is ugly..."why thank you, we knew you would share in our joy." And variations thereof.
This doesn't apply to every situation of course...some compliments are obviously fake--I get the 'be nice to the old lady' ones that annoy the hell out of me. Dumb bunnies ought to know that at my age I'm not to be trifled with ...hahahaha.
Shar

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Why do we hate compliments? mair 8/27/02
Re: Why do we hate compliments? » mair Dinah 8/27/02
Re: Why do we hate compliments? » mair Ted 8/27/02
Re: Chuckle. » Ted Dinah 8/27/02
compliments Susan G 8/27/02
Re: compliments » Susan G *alii* 8/27/02
Re: compliments » *alii* Ted 8/28/02
Re: compliments---Alii shar 8/28/02
you make me cackle!!! no trifling with you! (nm) » shar *alii* 8/28/02
depends on the source - long, lots of examples Medusa 8/28/02
Re: depends on the source - long, lots of examples Dinah 8/28/02
compliments BeArDedLADY 8/28/02
Re: compliments fiona 8/28/02
Re: compliments -- that's it exactly! » fiona Ted 8/28/02
Re: Well guys... Dinah 8/28/02
Re: Well guys... Ted 8/28/02
Dinah - Don't stop on my account (-: (nm) mair 8/28/02
Re: Thanks guys... Dinah 8/28/02
Re: Thanks guys... fiona 8/28/02

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