Posted by Dinah on August 25, 2002, at 22:58:04
In reply to Where does this come from??, posted by tina on August 25, 2002, at 22:47:09
I hate to say it, Tina, but it seems rather logical to me. When I'm depressed and someone compliments me, it upsets me on two levels. First of all I feel like a fraud and it underscores my many defects in my own eyes. Second it makes me angry that no one understands.
So I guess it isn't logical in a rational sort of way, but it does seem logical in an emotional way, if that makes any sense.
Of course, the key is to change your own self image so that you see the qualities that others see in you. So there you have it, a goal to work towards in therapy. :)
Easier said than done, I know. And it's all a vicious circle. A negative self image adds to depression. But depression causes a negative self image. Fortunately, my moods change so often that I only hate myself sometimes, so I understand a little bit more what is happening when my mood drops, and I have a vague memory of a positive self image. It must be a lot harder for those who are unipolar.
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