Posted by Dinah on March 24, 2002, at 20:17:27
In reply to Re: In love with my therapist--thanks, posted by allisonf on March 24, 2002, at 19:38:18
Well, if it gives you any comfort, those in-love infatuated feelings never last all that long. In marriage you kind of wish they would, but in therapy I suppose that's a good thing.
You know what I did to clarify my feelings? I imagined things through to their conclusion. I imagined meeting him outside therapy. I imagined being married to him. I imagined being his child. I carried it through all the way with all the pesky practicalities that would be involved in a real life situation. As I did this, it became clear that I didn't want any of those things to happen. I wasn't attracted to him. I didn't hardly know him at all as a person and what I did know didn't mesh with what I wanted out of my life. He's a great therapist, but I imagine he wouldn't be such a great parent, husband, or lover (for me anyway - I don't want to insult the guy). That helped a lot to clarify my thoughts.
And I was lucky in that I never aspired to be his favorite client. I can pick up on other people's feelings well enough to know that hoping he would not dislike me was a stretch. :) I can embarass him now by telling him all the things I picked up on him thinking about me. I was a really obnoxious client there for a while. I still can be.
I hope you enjoy In Session. I did quite a bit. Let me know what you think.
Best wishes,
Dinah
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