Posted by Rach on March 21, 2002, at 5:53:26
How do you stop lying? I do things that I am ashamed of, like not turn up to job interviews, or miss prearranged meetings, and I always manage to think of an excellent fact based excuse as to why I didn't make it (other than the honest truth). It started off as just being a thing with job interviews and the like with strangers, but I'm finding it happening a bit now with friends and family. It's a perpetual circle, because I feel ashamed for what I did, so I lie, and then I feel worse because I have lied. And I can't stop lying, and I'm getting so good at it that it happens before I realise it, and it is just the easiest way out of things.
How do I stop it? How do I come clean without alienating people? I hate it so much that I lie. None of it is really any large deception that will change anybody's life, but it's still deception and I hate it. But I can't seem to stop it.
poster:Rach
thread:20503
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