Posted by mist on January 29, 2002, at 13:35:49
I have heard the theory that people repeat patterns from their childhood. I think that may be true for me but I'm not sure how to break the patterns. I read a book called Reinventing Your Life which addresses this issue but I didn't find the exercises helpful. I have also had a lot of therapy but it hasn't helped for that either.
The idea is that people get themselves or stay in similar situations to those that were problematic for them as a child (some categories, or "lifetraps" mentioned in Reinventing Your Life are abuse, dependency, emotional deprivation, social isolation, etc.) I sometimes feel as if a mysterious spell is cast over my life that I can't break (emotional deprivation is one that resonates strongly with me).
Has anyone had success with changing lifelong emotional, circumstantial, relating, etc. patterns (other than with talk therapy, which as I said hasn't worked for me)? Insight is one step and that's hard enough to come by but once you see it, how do you change it?
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