Posted by kiddo on January 25, 2002, at 23:45:04
In reply to I NEED SOME INPUT..LONG SORRY IN ADVANCE 8o), posted by alley on January 25, 2002, at 21:25:39
Hiya, I'm kiddo, pleased to meet ya.
Please don't take what I'm about to say the wrong way :-)
How do you "know" the trouble you're having is due to your mental illness? Is this something he's come right out and told you? Have you discussed it in length?
The fact that he's majoring in psych doesn't mean he can apply that knowledge in his personal life. What I mean is,,,it looks good in the textbooks, but actually living it is often a difficult story.
The problems have only started since his return? Are you sure there weren't other issues that were there but not on the surface?
You mentioned the fact that he's finishing school locally, was he physically near you during the other years, or was he out of town then?
It bothers me that he says you wouldn't be able to survive without him...like an emotional blackmail/abusive comment. (no one will love you but me, etc.)
May I ask what meds you are taking, when they were increased and the dosage?
You mentioned in the beginning that you were rapid cycling, I take it you are Bi-polar? IMO (in my opinion) that alone could cause most of the trouble with your depressive episodes. Do you have a counselor you can talk to about this?
Sorry for all of the questions :-) Mine's probably longer than yours (or close) already!
I don't mean to sound critical of your boyfriend, but you yourself mentioned that "I've gotten so far and it isn't fair that you have to feel so stuck in this and so unstable at the same time." It sounds to me that you feel stuck in the relationship and unstable.....
Have you gone to Psycho-Babble Open? There is a chat there, feel free to come if you'd like, I'm heading there now.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/psycho-babble-open
I hope things get better for you....
Kiddo
> well its over a year since my boyfriend and i have been going out..im seventeen and hes twentyone..lately....well more then lately..i guess you can say since hes been back from college..which is since this past may(he decided to finish he last year of college local this year, i dont feel to guilty for taht, but thats a TOTALLY different story) anyway..weve been having a lot of problems...and i know its because hes having a hard time dealing with my mental illness(s) or whatever the fact may be...he is being really not cooperative and it doesnt help that im cycling up a storm..
> the funny thing is...hes majoring in psych. i dont see why he cant just cope with me and understand what im dealing with...our relationship is going deeper and deeper into a hole day by day and the sorrys dont mean anything anymore.
> he tells me i wouldnt be able to survive without him but i think its the opposite and at times i just want to take off and leave and but ive gotten so far that its not fair that i have to feel so stuck in this and unstable at the same time...
> the sickest part is..we tried to be apart for as much as we could last week...i think it was one of my worst depressive episodes i have ever had in my life...i thought it was just because of the new dosages of medicines but even my boyfriend said it was because we were apart...
> basically i really need people to tell me if theyve ever been in a situation like this or can give me some type of suggestions....im sorry this post was soo long i just needed to vent too sorry by all means....post anything, email me...anything please though tell me if its these stupid medications or just the relationship in general thats killing me inside....
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