Posted by sar on November 27, 2001, at 15:07:12
In reply to Dr. Jekyll and Ms. Hyde?, posted by Greg A. on November 26, 2001, at 13:04:23
> sar,
> I am offering this as my well intentioned, but semi-worthless opinion.impossible, Greg! i have always enjoyed your posts too much to deem them "semi-worthless" in any way.
You knew what his intentions likely were.
Well--ha ha--we had discussed this "deal" in length at a park over wine one day, and the one thing i stressed most was that *i was in charge,* he could not seek me out for sex, only i could do that. the humor of the deal was that i considered it this very fun scientific learning process...('cos he's more experienced)...
What better set up for a fight than going over there and ignoring him - and I don't mean ignoring him in the sense of not hopping into bed; I mean not saying what you want to do or don't want to do.
well, i just sat in his living room. i thought that was the best subtle way to enact what i'd told him: "i'll come over to chill out for an hour." and he stalked around like a pouty five year-old girl who had lost her ballet shoes. he could have sat down on the damn couch. he's a 28 year-old man, for godssake.
> Ever hear that men use love to get sex while women use sex to get love. I can see him fitting the picture. What about you?well, there was no pretense of love. we both agreed on that. i think that equation is too John Grey or whoever that tool is who wrote Men are from Mars... anyway, the first time i slept with him was a mistake. but it turned out to be a damn good mistake, he was an absolute --mmmmmm!---in bed, the best i'd ever had, and as i explained it to my female friends--PORNY DETAIL ALERT!!!--i was on a quest to have my first orgasm during intercourse and he was helping along *quite* nicely. on the side, i do have a boyfriend to whom i am emotionally attached, but he is a mere 21 year-old, a sexaul parvenue if you will, and i was being bad and selfish...
> Apologies if I lectured here, but sar, I have trouble putting the two yous I see on this board together: the one who writes such eloquent and caring advice to people in trouble and the one who does not seem to care about herself. There. I'm done psycho analyzing.thank you! i'm sorry if this message seems a bit abrupt and i hope i didn't come off as too brusque, i just wanted to clarify the situation. and i do very much respect your point of view and willingness to psychoanalyze me :), and if you've anything else to add, i'd be more than pleased to read it.
love,
sar
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