Posted by Mark H. on November 5, 2001, at 19:18:26
In reply to Please married/committed folk help! :), posted by Krazy Kat on November 5, 2001, at 18:49:10
If you've ever been addicted to something and were able to give it up (smoking, for instance), then you already have the skills necessary for breaking off an inappropriate relationship, especially if you can see the similarities in their effect on your thinking and feelings. In the circumstances you describe, "just talking" is like "just having one more cigarette." Neither helps when it's time to move on.
Letting go is painful for awhile, and many people find they need to concentrate on getting through one day at a time (or one hour, or one night). It helps if you treat yourself respectfully and gently, as a person who needs a little extra nourishment and tender loving care at this time. Taking walks or getting other physical exercise helps. Seeking out ways to help others is good too. Hold out for something better. You have to choose to have faith in yourself and in the unknowable future.
You can do it!
Respectfully,
Mark H.
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