Posted by Roo on November 2, 2001, at 8:55:35
In reply to Re: Stewart Smalley, more information PLEASE! » susan C, posted by Dinah on November 1, 2001, at 19:11:08
>yEP- shame attacks--I've been having them lately
too and thinking about the feeling of shame a lot
lately. Thanks for posting about this. It's easy
to think you're "the only one". I think my shame
attacks mostly come when I'm dealing with other people
and somehow feeling "I'm doing something wrong". I
think we who are prone to shame attacks must have been
shamed a lot as children. My therapist told me the
other day that there's nothing wrong with shame or
guilt and that it can actually be a useful tool if we
use it correctly to actually right the situations where
we've actually wronged someone. But that my shame
mechanism seemed to be firing at inappropriate times--when
I hadn't actually done anything. It's true. My homework
assignment this week was just to notice shame when it
came up and then ask myself "Is this shame justified?"...
if so, repair the situation, if not, let it go. Easier
said than done.Stewart Smalley! Yes! I always laughed my ass off
at him. I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggonit
people like me. I'll have to rent the movie!
poster:Roo
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