Posted by shelliR on July 19, 2001, at 12:44:34
In reply to Re: How do I get over this?, posted by ljasak on July 19, 2001, at 11:00:11
> > Can you tell us what she was saying that you thought was verbally abusive? I'm curious bec. sometimes I myself can't tell whether my therapist is being "abusive" or just trying to "toughen me up" and show me the way I really am -- quite confusing!
Can you give us an example: if possible an example in the context of when it was said and with what tone. There is definitely a difference between verbal abuse and a straightfoward directness of the part of some therapists, but perhaps for you the line is becoming blurred. In retrospect, when you felt that your therapist was "being abusive", do you look back on it with the same perspective? Verbal abuse by a therapist would be a very very serious malpractice and could set you backward on your path, so this seems like an incredibly important thing to sort out. Is this something you have discussed with your therapist? In general (although not always), when confronted about abuse, an abusive therapist becomes very defensive.
Shelli
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