Posted by Lorraine on July 14, 2001, at 22:45:57
In reply to Re: speaking of love..., posted by JennyR on July 12, 2001, at 22:41:40
Just wanted to say that I have a wonderful loving relationship with my husband of 20 years. Things are tough sometimes because I am depressed. So sometimes my sexual desire is no where to be found. Sometimes I spend "datenight" crying. But I bring a lot to the relationship. I am incredibly willing to be vulnerable (do i have a choice?), I am insightful, I truly appreciate the good times, I have an emotional depth that most people do not have the misfortune of developing, and I do the best I can with the resources I have at that moment. There is a emotional blossoming that happens in depression, a depth of understanding and compassion that other people do not have (unless they are near death--i mean this), these are strengths. Anyway, I sound like I am bragging I'm sure--(i'm not), but I think I'm an incredible wife and mother--in part because I realize how fragile and tender life is.
I do remember having the conversation with my husband a couple of years ago, when I said "this isn't the duty that you signed on for when we got married". I suppose people with MS have that same conversation with their spouses.
What can I say? Depression sucks, but being married doesn't and loving people is essential.
poster:Lorraine
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