Posted by annalaura on July 7, 2001, at 10:28:32
In reply to Re: Sexual fantasies and shrinks, posted by dreamer on July 7, 2001, at 9:22:08
> > Okay now that I've got your attention.... What's up with that? Transferance? Me getting slightly hypomanic? hormones? Any ideas? I am TOTALLY preoccupied with this- and this man has STEEL boundaries (probably because what happened with my ex-shrink) So if anyone wants to share if they have had the same thoughts and what you did about it- I'm here :-) Thank you!
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> Be careful hey I just told someone I loved them I'm outa control on this quest for passion but my brains in my naughty areas when hypo.
> Saying that now I spilled the beans and he said it's rediculous and I'm not his type and old enough to be my father and well it's stopped me focusing on him [exuse spelling]
> Now I feel silly bit sad but suppose was under some delusion that he felt same way as me.
> I'm screwed up with loving relationships two weeks ago I thought I was definately gay next week I'll think I'm an alien. I do try to laugh about it but that can be hard alot of the time
> You may wish to tell him /her how you feel and ask If they think it's all in your head.
> I explained my feelings whilst laughing and being crude,bad news.
> good luck.Hi all
i've been yours shoes some years ago.
I don't think i was delusional at all: the guy liked me; he never took adantage of it 'cause he was a very serious/straight guy (appreciated that a lot: i thought it was a sign he cared, i think that was the right attitude).
I think we both knew about that but we never talked about it.
I remember one Summer afternoon: i was his last patient. He took the keys, locked his office and we walked out of the building together. He asked me if i wanted to get on his bike for a ride. I was puzzled: i wasn't expecting such an explicit thing. In the midst of the confusion/astonishment there were mainly three questions running in my mind :first, he was engaged and i didn't want to hurt his fianceé. (My father left my mother for another woman and i swore i would not do that for any reason whatsoever)
second, back then i felt quite fine, but what if i'd have crushed down again, needing his help, and he wouldn't help me any longer because he had the guilty feeling of having trespassed the professional rules so that he'd have redirected me to another pdoc?
Third subject: i thought that i felt excited because of the summer, hormones going on and stuff like that, so i told myself: the world is full of men, why should i hunt for this particular one who, besides of all, is engaged?
So, when he asked me if i wanted to take a ride with him on his bike my answer was no.
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