Posted by pegasus on December 11, 2009, at 9:11:41
In reply to Re: Help with Screening New Ts? » pegasus, posted by Dinah on December 10, 2009, at 8:39:43
I'm glad it makes sense to you, Dinah. In restrospect it makes a lot of sense to me, too. At the time, I was trying to work with her as my next long term therapist. I think anyone that I worked with at that point would have become a temporary T, though. I had to have *somewhere* to dump all that anger that I wasn't allowing myself to dump on my ex-T. Although, I did dump a fair bit of it on him as well. But there was a lot of overflow. ;)
It was a bit unfortunate, the way it worked out. I ended up leaving T2 after she said some things that annoyed me. So, I think she probably feels like she screwed up. But if it hadn't been that, it would have been something else. She was in a no-win situation. I couldn't live with my reaction to being left by T1, so when I moved on a tiny bit, I had to leave her.
If it happened to me again now, I'd go looking for a temporary T on purpose for that, and be up front about it. Although, I suppose if I was more evolved, I'd be able to work through the anger with the T I do the original dumping on. But I agree that right now it feels like two separate phases that need two separate Ts: the acute uncontrollable anger/grief, and the later work-through-able anger/grief.
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