Posted by Dinah on December 10, 2009, at 8:39:43
In reply to Re: Help with Screening New Ts?, posted by pegasus on December 9, 2009, at 9:20:30
> Good luck with the process. I'm glad that you're looking. I know that when my T left, I had a T for a while, who I eventually left because I was just really mad at her for not being my ex-T. Then later I found a good longer term T, when I was really ready. But I think I needed that intermediate person to listen to me cry, and support me through that acute grieving phase, and to be mad at in proxy.
If, God forbid, this ever happens to me, I suspect that's how I will feel. I'll need at least one therapist who will never be *my* therapist. Someone who, by every difference, will remind me what I've lost and not what I've gained. Someone who knows me just a few hours not years, and can accustom me to that strange feeling.
I know not everyone feels that way. And of course if my next therapist was one of the rare ones I actually could see myself seeing, I might feel differently. But what you said struck a chord with me.
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