Posted by Dinah on December 9, 2009, at 20:35:43
In reply to Re: The message she finally left me, posted by TherapyGirl on December 9, 2009, at 18:45:59
Sigh.
It sounds to me like a person who has had no more training in how to do this than you have. And who knows she's hurting you, but really doesn't know what will hurt you least from this point on.
I think it sounds like she's not the therapist who has been your support for all these years. You're just two people who don't know how the heck to do this.
Whether it's wrong of them to let us grow to rely on them while they are available, I don't know. Maybe they have no clue what is best to do in that either.
Whatever you decide from this point on, I think you need to decide based on the information that she's not the therapist she's been to you all these years. She's just a person, and one who no more has the answers than you do.
The pain right now lasts a month. The pain of having lost her will last for a good deal longer. When you look back on this, how do you want to remember it? Don't think of it in terms of what's best for the next month, or least painful, but what will have caused you less pain long term.
And what that may be, only you can really know I think.
poster:Dinah
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