Posted by Dinah on October 25, 2009, at 10:38:39
In reply to Re: The Egg of Shame? Dinah, what is this? » Dinah, posted by Poet on October 24, 2009, at 15:18:59
Poet! It's wonderful to see you!
He redeemed himself a bit Friday. We actually talked about it on a level other than mutual stubbornness.
I took Bayleaf's advice, and asked him about his own experience with the egg. It was indeed a workshop thing. And while he didn't share with me the specifics of what he put in his egg (which is just as well I think), he did talk a bit about the mechanics of filling it out (ie how many shameful pictures were typical), and about his feelings in doing the egg.
He actually listened to me, and understood that I found it disrespectful to my experiences to lump them all together with little pictures. He said he wished I didn't feel that way, because he knows I'll never do it as long as I do. And that he hopes I know he would never ask me to do it if he found it disrespectful, and shared how he has found it very respectful both as the one drawing the egg and as a therapist.
He says at this point, as helpful as he finds the egg, he's more interested in how strongly I am opposed to doing it.
It was the first *real* conversation we'd had about it on a level other than head butting. So perhaps he has received his cyberslap indirectly. Talking about it on babble gave me the determination to talk about it on a deeper level in session.
I gotta say, my therapist usually responds very well.
I still am not going to do the egg, but I don't feel nearly as irritable now.
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