Posted by Dinah on September 10, 2009, at 9:29:16
In reply to Re: Any good books on parenting? » onceupon, posted by floatingbridge on September 8, 2009, at 23:47:45
I also felt, and still feel, that I lack the easy naturalness of a parent that others seem to experience. I love my son a lot, but I think I'm careful around him. My husband said he could see me mentally scanning all the books I read, then concluding "Ahhhh, page 423. That would be appropriate."
That being said, my most helpful resource was reading about the Montessori method, and talking to my son's preschool teachers. The discipline methods follow natural consequences. So punishment was generally not time outs unless a cooling down period was needed. Consequences flowed naturally from poor choices.
Still, all approaches likely have the end result of giving our kids plenty to talk about in therapy. Being a good enough parent is all we can really expect of ourselves.
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