Posted by antigua3 on May 14, 2009, at 19:58:39
In reply to Re: How it went » Dinah, posted by TherapyGirl on May 14, 2009, at 12:19:14
A red flag went up when I read this.
She wants you to show her empathy??? In the kindest way possible I'd like to point out that this isn't supposed to be about her, but about you!
TG, it sounds like she's floundering a bit with her own feelings and I'm sorry they are spilling over on to you. It seems like it's hard to know which feelings rightfully belong to you and which are her own issues. If it's her, and you want to find the resolution you so desperately seek, maybe you're going to have to come middle ground here. You don't have a lot of time and you need to figure out what it is that YOU need and balance that against what she is willing to give.
I am so sorry you have to go through this. But keep working, and get those names of Ts who might be available to help you in the future, as hard as that may be.
Figure out what you can hold onto, what can make you safe.
Please take care and know that I'm thinking of you.
antigua
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