Posted by Zana on April 30, 2009, at 16:31:03
In reply to Re: Issues with therapist, posted by alexandra_k on April 28, 2009, at 10:37:15
You are so right on about the inevitability of failures of attunement and about how the important part is the t's intention, best effort to be attuned. Winnicott refers to "good enough mothering." There is no such thing as perfect attunement, perfect empathic responsiveness. There are bound to be failures in real life relationships, like between a mother and child, and in therapeutic relationships. The important thing is that the attunement is good enough.
I don't know why you missed your appointment but it sound to me like you then set up a situation in which you were bound to be disappointed by the limitations of the relationship. Why did you miss that appointment? It sounds as though that set a lot of this in motion.Zana
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