Posted by workinprogress on February 14, 2009, at 11:27:36
In reply to Re: Therapy is so not linear- but I wish it was... » workinprogress, posted by antigua3 on February 14, 2009, at 10:38:41
Thanks Antigua-
No problem, it's my own lack of differentiation. "probably isn't about me that people aren't responding". I automatically go to "I was too selfish" "I was too needy" "they don't like me for some reason" instead of "maybe antigua was afraid not only that she wouldn't be helpful, but that she might accidentally be unhelpful".
I find I struggle with this venue. I don't know if it is time or just that I need a visual. But, I can't seem to remember lots of different people's stories if they aren't included in a post. So, I can't always respond in the depth that some people do. It also means I generally can only speak to my experience as it relates and offer empathy. Anyway, it's made me a little insecure. But- another good place to practice differentiation.
So, your post here, explaining where you were coming from, is very helpful to me in realizing my stories were wrong. Thanks!
WIP
> I'm sorry you feel bruised, and I'm sorry that I didn't have any words that I thought would make you feel better. I understand feeling so needy, but I'm an odd duck in that I don't want to ever, ever be special again, so I didn't want to say anything that might be out of place.
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> I hope you feel better today,
> antigua
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