Posted by antigua3 on December 2, 2008, at 7:40:32
In reply to Re: Nasty week (reply to all), posted by Partlycloudy on November 25, 2008, at 19:08:13
Bringing your husband in can be a real eye-opener for him. At least it was for my husband. He wanted to go in w/me once when I was having a very bad time. He had a list of all the things that were "wrong" w/me and my T blew him away and made him think about his role in what was going on. Needless to say, he never got through his list! My T was very good about protecting me while helping him see things he hadn't considered before.
Taking my husband into see my pdoc was a very different, but same type of experience. My pdoc protected me, but hit my husband hard for things he was doing and not recognizing that I had an illness. My DH didn't like to be told I was sick, and the things my pdoc said made him very angry so he hates him now and would never go back.
For me, it was helpful for my DH to see two different sides of the same coin. He loves my T and knows her well, so he listens to what she has to say.
But as I've said before, my DH has no desire, interest, whatever, to know about what happened to me. He just wants me to get over it and be better. Which I mostly am, BTW.
So trust your T. Take your husband so he can understand better what you're going through. She will protect you, and only let out what you want.
Both my pdoc and T have said that my husband could use therapy, but there's no chance of that. It just helped me understand how much of a role he actually does play in all of this.
Good luck,
antigua
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