Posted by JayMac on November 24, 2008, at 18:42:45
In reply to Re: The L word with T?, posted by Annierose on November 24, 2008, at 16:46:13
Everyone's relationship with their T is so different. As much as I love Babble, sometimes we have to step back and realize that our own relationship with our T is different than other people's relationship with their T. This is neither good nor bad, it is what it is.
For example, if my T and I were neighbors and got to talking, we would come to find we have many different things in common. I don't know if we would call eachother for coffee dates, but I'm sure we would have lovely conversations about our commonalities. We do have different personalities and that is also something I have come to respect, accept, and love.
Regardless of similar interests or not, I love my T for who she is in my life. I think my love for her is similar (but yet completely different) to how a child loves their mom/dad/caregiver. I fondly remember when I used to nanny twins. I was with them for years, I still see them frequently. I remember when one of them first told me that they love me, and I remember being surprised. I was touched, I just about cried. It was so sweet and so rich. Of course I knew that I was significant in her life, of course I knew that she would tell and kick and scream at me the next week, but, nevertheless, I knew that she would come running to me when needed me to help dress her doll, or fix her toy, brush her hair, or when she was hurting. My relationship with them was and is precious. They are dear to my heart. I completely understand that my relationshp with my T is different, nevertheless, I find worth in all it's ups and downs, highs and lows.My relationship with my T is also precious. She tells me over and over that what we have is special. The specialness is what I love, we have created it together. Without her, and without me, we wouldn't have this.
Anyhow, I don't mean to ramble on and on about this topic. I just enjoy the discussion. For what it's worth, each of us has our own special relationship with our T.=)
poster:JayMac
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