Posted by lucie lu on November 13, 2008, at 12:09:09
In reply to Re: 'T' has trouble staying awake,2nd more story, posted by maysie on November 13, 2008, at 10:43:54
Maysie,
IMO this does not sound at all promising....
> I have been vocal about his wiggling to stay awake. Maybe the issue is I do it in a motherly way, like "you are wiggling, are you tired, do you need a nap?"
Maybe you should ask in your motherly tone whether he needs to go to the potty? Seriously, you should not have to entice or encourage him to do his job, which you are paying $120 an hour for. Sounds like you have been trying your best to prop him up, like a puppet.>he was equally unhappy to find it. My dealing with them has been pretty much him wiggling and listening as I struggle to remember and talk about a car wreck I had blocked, that nearly killed my family when I was 18. As an aside he asked me this past week if I always cried this much, UH WHAT???
Excuse me? Sounds like he really was in the bathroom when empathy was handed out. Grrr
Putting empathy aside, a good T would be glad you remembered, want to support you and be more interested rather than less on examining the memory together to see what effect it might have had on you. I expect you already know that, since you say you've seen some good T's in action. I'm sorry that you have lost access to them for one reason or another. That must be disappointing.
It really is hard to find a good T who is also a good match. Maybe there should be some equivalent to a dating service to pair clients with compatible T's. I'm only half joking.
> I hope this doesn't sound to woo-woo, but at 58 years old I want to grow up into the woman I can be. Lively, vibrant, colorful, probably still shy, and agoraphobic, but fully alive.Woo-woo? Is there anything wrong with that picture? I am 56. Don't tell me there is anything strange in wanting to be that woman. Me, I plan to fly away into a technicolor sunset :)
>to function in that way, but is he capable of helping with this? I think he is a deeply unhappy, rigid man, who can only tolerate a minimum of liveliness. I asked him what gives him pleasure, he said watching his chickens.. I love chickens, but still this is a "HUH" answer.
Good grief, this man sounds seriously depressed. Or something. I'm surprised you can keep awake during sessions. You've been seeing him twice weekly since June, it's now November. IMO you've given it plenty of time, and now it's time to evaluate how effective therapy with him has been. Personally, I would give this guy the heave-ho and not look back, but that's just me. We're all different in what works best for us.
I once had a back problem and went to a specialist (this is a true story). This guy was so busy, he dictated out loud into a tape recorder while I was trying to talk to him! "Patient is a x-year old (some additional, rather unflattering, physical description) female, depressed-looking, complaining of back pain, possibly psychosomatic..." I just looked at him and walked right out. Wonder if this guy went into psychiatry and moved to your area (lol)
> You all are so nice!
This board has so many terrific people and lots of good talk. Glad you joined
Lucie
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