Posted by lucie lu on October 20, 2008, at 16:33:26
In reply to My T story, posted by Morgan79 on October 20, 2008, at 8:23:32
Morgan,
Thanks for telling us about what must have been, in the words of Dickens, the best of times and the worst of times. I admire your courage in taking the course that you did and also being able to share it with us. As a community, we are committed to supporting one another and helping each others journeys to health. Only sometimes it's hard to know what that journey is and how best to support it.
I think what is being expressed in this thread, besides recognition and empathy, is concern and a protectiveness for you. There have been some babblers who have been badly hurt by their Ts, and we are all well aware of the potential hazards imposed by the power differential. So I think there is a natural tendency here to express caution about such relationships while recognizing the courage that it might take to get out of (or avoid) one. That sort of natural response does not rule out, hopefully, a willingness to get to know you and your unique history (and future) more fully. And if that includes being in the relationship with this T, then so be it. I guess one view is that we might usefully provide a sounding board for this particular issue and perhaps, at times, a devil's advocate, which may not be available to you otherwise (except your best friend, who it sounds like you trust). But if you don't feel that is useful and just want and need support for the feelings and emotional hardships you are going through, I would hope we can support you in those ways too.
Glad you decided to post :)
Best,
Lucie
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