Posted by Quintal on September 20, 2008, at 12:00:14
In reply to Re: T thinks I might be shallow, posted by Nadezda on September 19, 2008, at 19:00:26
I think the problem is that we're natural enemies. If I passed her in the street I'd have her down as someone to be wary of. There's cruelty in her face. She isn't a very friendly person at heart and neither am I. We both have to try hard to maintain this veneer of unconditional positive regard, and quite often we fail. I think it's easier for her with patients who are naturally more affable. She admitted to being shy and uncomfortable around people herself, and as a result she's drawn to "fill the room" types of personalities because they cover up her deficits.
She used the words 'shallow, superifical emotions'. I can't remember the exact sequence of words that preceeded it, but those were the ones that stood out. Yes, it is odd for a T to use those words. It sounded to me as if she was reading it off from a list somewhere in her head. I know I never used them myself, but I think they are listed as being core critrea in the diagnostic category I've been half-heartedly steering her towards. I would meet more of the diagnostic criteria than her - mainly because I've been less successful in life, but I think the problem is that we share the same underlying temperement. I don't believe that diagnostic criteria can fully encapsulate what it is to be a person. We can usually just tell by instinct. I think this is why she can't see anything in me - she's looking at the worst parts of herself.
Q
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