Posted by Lemonaide on July 21, 2008, at 18:06:00
In reply to Is it reckless to wear a skirt? » llurpsienoodle, posted by llurpsienoodle on July 20, 2008, at 7:19:09
If you are doing it for own progress and for yourself, it won't matter how T sees the new clothes.
I still don't see how dressing more revealing with help with your fear of men. Maybe I am old fashion, but I don't see the correlation between self esteem and revealing clothing. It seems kinda like your T has this view that women should be "seen" to have self confidence. Or perhaps I don't have the whole story.
Because while this might work when you are still young, but what do you do when you are 40? I feel self esteem has to come from within yourself on how you feel about you regardless of your physical presence. This is something I am working on in therapy. That in the end, it doesn't matter what others think of you to make you have good self esteem.
How you dress is only secondary to that. It reminds me of rich people who think they have to have designer clothes, expensive cars, etc. to feel good about themselves. Eventually it doesn't work.
I don't know maybe I am just older and don't see the superficial stuff people have or are wearing as who they really are.
My T would question why the need to cover up but also would go into the issue of why you feel afraid of men. Wearing more revealing clothing without working through this issue completely can be risky.
What if you are overcompensating to show improvement before working out that issue. That could put you in a more dangerous situation with men. It just seems like he is putting the cart in front of the horse. But like always I could be wrong, maybe I just understand what he is trying to do.
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