Posted by Looney Tunes on July 18, 2008, at 0:50:43
In reply to Question on Therapy Types (long/sorry), posted by antigua3 on July 17, 2008, at 10:31:31
This is interesting.
From my understanding of things, working through the transferance issues is where you (1) learn to understand yourself and (2) learn to understand your relations with other people.
So, the ideal situation would be for the therapist to accept the transferance, control their reactions to the transferance, and let the client have a different experience so that the client feels differently than in the past. And then the client can figure out that this is what should happen in the relationship and what the client should expect.So for example: If I have a transferance reaction to my T so that I get upset and feel that he is lying to me. Ideally, he would respond that he is not lying to me and that he is always honest with me. Go through this over and over until I go AHA! You are not like my mother who lied to me and I should not have been lied to. And I should not expect people to lie to me. I've worked through it!!!
So, the relationship with my T was the vehicle for me figuring myself out. The AHA moment....
The problem I have with the statement about the relationship between you and your feelings being the most important....What if you don't trust your own feelings yet? How do you get there? How do you put the two together if you are used to your feelings as they already exist? What is the vehicle to help the change? Your thoughts? ICK...that's too CBT for me.
Hmm...hope I did not babble too long. I am tired.
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