Posted by Kath on May 20, 2008, at 23:04:39
In reply to Re: Went to end therapy but he talked me out of-lo » raisinb, posted by rskontos on May 20, 2008, at 9:27:45
HEY - read what you said:
>I admit my perceptions are probably not right all the time especially now. I admit I would rather hide all the time. It is what I know best. I guess I could say well I will try say two more sessions. And if he gets sleepy even once more I will say hey this is it and I am done.
*************VERY important.......you are saying if he gets sleepy you'll stop seeing him......HE said that if you perceive him as sleepy CALL HIM ON IT!!!! (((((you))))) do you remember him saying that??? You said he did hunneee.
SO - if he gets sleepy - can you say "HEY - you seem sleepy (or tired or whatever). You told me to tell you."I think the fact that you are thinking you'll LEAVE if he gets sleepy, rather than actually dealing with whatever that triggers is really something to think about hun. Depending on what happened to you, someone looking 'sleepy' could be a HUGE trigger. Some abusers have a 'glassy eyes' look or a dazed look hun. this could be really important & of COURSE the sleepiness or whatever look it is could make parts of you say, "HEY - what the **** - I'm OUTTA here!!!"
Please be gentle with yourself & I really think this could be important. Maybe talk with your inner kid(s) before you go in & tell them, "We are going in to see Dr. ------. If he gets looking scarey, we will TELL HIM, right away that we are NOT OKAY with him looking like that - that it makes us really scared." or something like that. Wadayathink?
love & hugs Kath
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