Posted by B2chica on May 20, 2008, at 15:08:49
In reply to Re: Went to end therapy but he talked me out of-lo, posted by rskontos on May 20, 2008, at 11:48:48
my H. has met T's. and for me it helps. that way it takes the mystery out of who i'm meeting etc. and there is a person behind the T mask.
in my situation it helped. maybe not for everyone.but sometimes especially when we have male T's sometimes DH can feel threatened that we spending time with male T's and we listening so much to this guy and that we telling HIM so much and not DH. then we get the "why do you need to see him, why cant you just tell me, OR why can 't you just get better" kind of stuff.
now, my DH does NOT know my situation. HOWEVER, when my T met him we discussed ahead of time what was ok to discuss and what was not. and i wanted to be in there so my DH felt more comfortable and so that it was a we thing not a HE thing. like HE needed help. that it was more for me, support me. That he was willing to do.
and the snap fingers all better...oh boy ya do i know that. i think it comes from the "i want to fix it" frustration. Guys tend to just want to fix things. they don't realize that we dont always NEED fixing, but listening and working and help and support. not just a quick fix. its a hard thing for them to accept, that they cant do anything for the one person they love the very most. that it's out of their hands. and they have to rely on someone else.
best luck
b2c.
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