Posted by muffled on April 23, 2008, at 0:23:22
In reply to less reassurance, posted by sunnydays on April 22, 2008, at 22:35:11
Reckon it hurts OK. Growing pains.
But the times you call your T and don't ask for a call back, or times you WANT to call T, but don't.
Well....you survive those times don't you?
Those horrible intense feelings DO pass. Yes, they may come back, but then they ease up again, like waves washing into the beach.
So I reckon your T is trying to help you learn to tolerate these feelings.
Giving you the opportunity to have these feelings and survive them on your own sometimes.
To discover for yourownself that they DO in fact pass.
Took me awhile to figger this concept.....
Cuz the reality is, we have to have our own INNER resources to carry us through this life, cuz lotsa bad stuff happens. And somehow, you never got those inner resources when you was a kid, and its WAAAAAAAYYYY harder to learn the stuff you shoulda learned as a kid, as an adult.
Its painful and hard.
But SD your ARE learning, and I think your T understands alot, but noone can ever totally understand another.
I think this is so hard for you, but manoman, it sounds like you going for it, and calling him less, and getting thru those tough moments?
I wonder if you could chart it somehow? The times its hard, but you make it thru. There is some DBT stuff that you can do to kinda chart your emotions and how they ebb and flow.
And how yopur thots/perceptions can set emotions off.
Anyhow, I think you guys are doing good work, hard work, but good work.
Take care,
M
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