Posted by earthmama on March 5, 2008, at 22:34:49
In reply to Homework Help Needed, posted by DAisym on March 5, 2008, at 19:47:56
Oh WOW, can I relate to this.
It's such a deep, deep need and a deep, deep fear for me....and it just goes around and around and around. I'll have these flashes of feeling safe, cared for, like I'm not going to be abandoned or told I'm too needy or I need to go away, and it feels so good, but then the fear and the feeling of disconnection comes back. He asks the same thing your therapist asks "what would it look like if..."
I was talking about this with him in therapy last Friday, and I was telling him I need reassurance, but that didn't feel like "it" to me. And then I had the gut-wrenching realization that I need something he can't give me...to go back 38 years, and to start over with parents who will love, nurture, and cherish me. I actually told him that ("I need something you can't give me") and it was just such a powerful realization. He kind of gasped and we just sat there and stared at each other for a minute.
I don't know if that's helpful at all....I really understand what you're feeling, and it's such a hard and familiar place to be.
poster:earthmama
thread:816442
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