Posted by Eltoro on December 20, 2007, at 2:47:41
In reply to Do successful people..., posted by Deneb on December 20, 2007, at 0:04:44
Dont be so hard on yourself, Deneb.
My brother or sisters have never ever rubbed in my face that they are more succesful than I am, but my friends do it all the time, well, they dont, but its easy for me to interpret things the wrong way, most of them have MBAs and kids. And im still a loser, struggling to get decent clothes, a crappy car, etc.
But I cant try to be like them, i always got bad grades by choice, my friends and family knows i could have gotten straight As easily if I tried half as much as most of them. What I am trying to say is intelect is nothing, im still a loser, and those who tried harder are succesful, life is easy if you try, and hard if you dont.
The key is in how you handle emotions, thats where the difference comes from. For example, dont fantasize about having a better job or more money than your friends or your sister, instead, try fantasizing about having better relationships, with your not exceedingly superior husband, or with your not picture perfect family (kids), just imagine getting along wonderfully with people around you, and thats the feelings you should be after.
Then make it a goal to feel that way, to be prepared for handling people and relationships, because you are smart you have it made in that regard, its the emotions that need some work out.
Best of luck to you.
poster:Eltoro
thread:801695
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