Posted by frida on October 24, 2007, at 11:56:31
In reply to Re: Pdoc/Real Me asked why I wouldn't shake hands abov, posted by antigua3 on October 24, 2007, at 10:46:07
dear antigua
i would feel very hurt if my pdoc refused to call me by my name. That would feel so cold to me. And what he said to you about the past and future..if only it were that easy to just 'leave the past behind'..it affects the present, even if we try hard not to think about it..
it makes me think of a film on Sunday (old one): everything is illuminated..the phrase that comes to me is 'everything is illuminated by the light of the past'. Unfortunately we cannot change what happened.It shapes our life and it's so important to be able to process it. i always try to minimize it all and just leave it "buried" by not talking..but it comes to me in other ways and affects my life and the people around me.
My T always tells me how necessary it is to talk and tell so that the past and memories don't have such a strong influence.
How hard it must be to hear these words from your pdoc.
I don't know if i could see a pdoc who said that to me and who refused to call me by my name.I am sorry, I think you deserve much better than this.
lots of support,
Frida
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