Posted by muffled on October 6, 2007, at 10:51:28
In reply to Re: :-( :-( Dunno WHAT to do***SEX trigger***:- » muffled, posted by Dinah on October 6, 2007, at 10:14:31
Thanks for the input Dinah.
I feel pretty bad bout this.
Hubby been working so hard lately.>I don't know what it is that would work best for you. Was it always like this? Or did it get worse recently? Would it help to do things to see it as part of your husband, who you care about? I'll bet there are exercises to do that? Would it help to get to know it when there's no intercourse in the near future? It might not be scary then. It might even be funny and vulnerable and a bit scared itself. I'll bet there are ways to do that too.
I think maybe in retrospect its always been somwhat of a thing.
I USED to be able to dissociate, but now for some reason I can't. I dunno why?
It definately got owrse with the advent of kids.
Esp kids in bed w/us.
And sometimes there's a kid in bed and DH gets randy and even tho kid is beside me and not near him, this disturbs me.
I don't want sex anywhere near my kids.
But its getting worse, feeding upon its own fears i suppose. I need to deal w/this.
I dunno if i can though.
I dunno if t can help me.
Dunno if she can even come close to the terror.
For her sex is this wonderful thing.
It seems like we at opposite ends of the spectrum.
I feel like I gonna contaminate her wonderful view of sex with my grossness.
Its just all complicated and I just wish it would all go away.
Thanks Dinah.
M
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