Posted by ClearSkies on September 26, 2007, at 20:36:21
In reply to Re: Getting closer to the heart of the issues? » ClearSkies, posted by antigua3 on September 26, 2007, at 19:47:49
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> We are who we are, trying to do the best we can. Look at how far you've come, and look forward to knowing that all of your hard work has paid off in many ways--maybe not yet in all the ways you want, but please give yourself a huge amount of credit; I certainly can see that you deserve it.
> antiguaI think that it's when my husband says to me, "get over it" that I think that I should be over it. I don't even discuss what it is that triggers me or what I'm upset about - he just doesn't want to hear about it. He's actually blocked out entire memories of his first marriage, and from what I can gather, can only vividly remember family vacations. The day to day stuff of trauma he claims he cannot remember. Sometimes I think he must be lying, and sometimes I wish I had the power to do the same with my own memories. (And yes, his denial runs very deep. I know that when I've spoken of my first marriage and my trauma that he's just not prepared to hear any of it. And he wonders what I get out of therapy!)
CS
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