Posted by Tamar on August 13, 2007, at 12:57:49
In reply to Re: ***** Long, tedious and triggery ***** » Tamar, posted by antigua3 on August 13, 2007, at 9:28:54
> Whoa, you just pretty much described my relationship with my Pdoc. He's never late, but he won't return calls (which makes him unreliable in my book) or get "involved" in our relationship.
Ouch. That sounds hard.
> What you want to achieve with your T is what I want with my Pdoc. He has very strict boundaries, but I don't think he's holding up his end of the "therapeutic relationship." I tend to think he is afraid of me, can't handle me or just doesn't want to get involved.
Yeah, I know that feeling all too well.
> I see him tomorrow and I'm going to bring this up again (we've discussed this before). If I don't feel good about how it turns out, I'm going to find another Pdoc. It's interfering with my life and I don't want to worry about this anymore. Sometimes I wonder if I've let myself get into another abusive relationship and if I have, I have to get right out of it.
I know what you mean about abusive relationships. Every time someone suggests I should leave my therapist, my first response is, “But I love him,” which I’ve heard so many times from women in abusive relationships. And there is something about the way *some* therapists exercise power that mirrors the way abusers maintain their control of the relationship.
> I need things from him that he either doesn't see or refuses to give.
I reckon that if he refuses to give you what you need or want, he ought to be able to help you with those feelings of needing and wanting. If he can’t help you with that, what can he do?
> I'm sorry you're going through this, but I certainly understand. When my pdoc is "on" it's just fantastic.
Yeah. Just when we’re at the end of our tethers, the bastards do brilliant work with us. Can’t live with them, can’t live without them…
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