Posted by sunnydays on August 10, 2007, at 23:21:53
In reply to Therapist is not upset with me, but (triggerlong), posted by OzLand on August 10, 2007, at 21:33:52
It sounds like it was a really good session. It sounds like he really 'gets' you and understands and hears where you're coming from.
I definitely relate to the whole father thing. I told my T once "I wish you were my parent". I kind of want him to replace my mother actually, because my father and I do ok together. But it's the same sort of thing, I think. He said, "Sometimes I wish I could be your parent too, sunnydays." And at the moment it was the best thing he could have said. We have gone over the boundaries a zillion times - I have a problem even wanting something I can't have, even if I know I can't have it, so he's trying to convince me that it's ok to have wants even if they can't be fulfilled. He's said things like, "It's perfectly ok to want to come set up a futon in our back bedroom. I'll say no, but it's perfectly ok to want that. I'm comfortable saying no, so you can ask for whatever you want. If you were in the hospital with a broken arm, I'd come see you, but if you were at a friend's house and couldn't come to a session, I wouldn't go visit you there."
Sorry this post became all about me. But I hope it helps some. I relate to some of the feelings you're having. It sounds like you have a really good therapist.
sunnydays
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