Posted by sunnydays on June 9, 2007, at 11:14:34
In reply to Re: hard to leave..., posted by peddidle on June 9, 2007, at 0:24:00
> I always find myself kind of half consciously/half subconsciously stalling at the end of a session. I'll take even longer than usual to answer a simple question, or I start to look extra upset. I don't know if it's because I'm so upset about leaving, or because I'm trying to make her think that I need to stay longer. Maybe a little of both. Either way, my T is wonderful.
**** Yeah, sometimes I feel like I'm doing that too. Sometimes I can just tell without looking at the clock that the session's about to end and I tense up - he caught that happening the other day, which was nice because we could talk about it a little. But I guess it doesn't matter if we're just appearing upset to stay longer or if we 'really' are that upset - because either way we are upset about leaving.
> It sounds like your T handles the situation well, too. I admire you for being able to tell him that you have difficulty leaving. I'm sure my T knows that I have that problem, but I can't imagine actually saying it.
**** I couldn't either for a long time, but then I just had to one day.
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> As far as making it less painful in between sessions, the only thing I know is that the longer I go without seeing my T, the less painful it becomes.**** Yeah, that happens with me too if I'm on break for a long time or something.
I'm kind of supposed to be emailing my T over the summer, but I'm trying to hold out for a few weeks (it's been two so far). When I email her, I basically feel compelled to sit at my computer all day and wait for a reply.
*** I know that feeling too, although I email him so much that I've gotten much better about that and it doesn't really happen with me anymore.
I'm not suggesting that you stop seeing your T weekly (believe me, I still miss my T and I wish I could see her over the summer), but I'm just letting you know that you're not alone, and it'll get better.
**** Thanks pediddle. I actually see my T biweekly, so I feel really weird that I react so strongly when it's less than a week until I see him again.
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> Actually, that was probably pretty useless and obvious advice.**** Not at all. It helps to know other people's experiences.
> If you find something that works for that weekly longing, let me know!
*** definitely!
sunnydays
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