Posted by frida on May 27, 2007, at 1:14:10
In reply to whoaaa anxiety (work related.. long), posted by wishingstar on May 27, 2007, at 0:29:58
Dear wishingstar..
I think you did well :-)
I guess all I can say is what I would look for or what would help me if i made a phonecall or reached out...
Hearing someone concerned, feeling cared for...just that alone would be really important.
Having my feelings validated would help too...I think it's good that you offered to see her on Mon instead on Wednesday..this will make it easier to hang on.
I know it's different, but when I call my T in a crisis, what helps me is to feel she cares about me, it matters to her if I'm safe or not, she listens to me...sometimes it helps to let it out and know she is thinking with me some way for me to stay safe...
another thing that helps me is if she gives me something to hang on until i see her (if i'm finding it hard to stay safe). It helps me if she tells me to make a drawing, or write, for example, of what i'm feeling and that we'll talk about it...
just to know that she'll listen...
It helps to hear her say I feel how much you are hurting, let's think about this together....
when i reach out, i don't expect her to have magic answers. It truly helps to feel the connection...I think you did the right thing, you gave her something to hold on to...knowing she'll see you on Monday...and i think it's a good thing she called...it shows that you've inspired trust in her...
wishing you the best,
Frida
poster:frida
thread:759739
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