Posted by gardenergirl on May 11, 2007, at 7:39:59
In reply to Re: Where are the tissues?, posted by antigua on May 10, 2007, at 19:36:41
> I know I'm odd, but I just hate it when the T hands over the box of tissues. I've been known to throw it back! I don't know why it bothers me so much--it's a stupid weakness of mine.
> antiguaI have the same reaction. I don't think it's a weakness, per se. I'm not sure quite why I react negatively, but it's something about feeling as if I shouldn't cry or something. I tend to let the tears roll down my face quite a bit. I use Kleenex when it starts flooding and to blow my nose (God, I hate doing that in therapy!). So if someone hands me the tissue box when I first start crying, it feels like I should clean myself up or something, when actually, I'm quite comfortable with the tears. And if I'm not comfortable, I'll reach for or ask for a tissue, I suppose.
This only happens in marriage counseling. I know she's just trying to be helpful and kind, but it still irks me. In my individual therapy, there are plenty of tissues within my reach, and if the box runs out, I just lean across the couch to the other table to get the other box.
We talked about this in school, probably the psychodynamic class. I think the consensus was to make sure to have enough tissue readily available to avoid inadvertently sending a message with Kleenex. :)
gg
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