Posted by sunnydays on May 8, 2007, at 18:57:29
In reply to Re: inconsistency in my moods, posted by peddidle on May 7, 2007, at 23:55:34
> I am not in the best state of mind right now either, so I don't know how much help I can be, but I wanted to respond because I am dealing with similar issues about sitting with my feelings.
**** Thanks for making the effort to respond to me.
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When I recognize that I am having a bad thought, my T has told me to literally picture the word "STOP," and then switch my attention to something else, like TV, sudoku, a magazine, etc. She has also told me to try to recognize the difference between my own thoughts, and the obsessional thoughts (if that makes any sense), and to then detach myself as much as possible from the obsessional thoughts.**** I think that might be a little harsh for me. Telling myself stop would feel like I was yelling at myself, I think, and that might upset me more. But I have heard of that technique before.
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I guess we just have to get past our own insecurities and trust that our T's tell us exactly how they feel, and that they don't hold any silent judgment in their heads.*** Yeah, and isn't it hard, even when they tell us explicitly that we're wrong and they really don't think anything bad about us at all?
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> I also get really discouraged when I've been doing well, and then all of a sudden, feel like I'm going backwards. Obviously I don't like feeling bad in the first place, but I also feel like I'm somehow disappointing my T. I have to constantly remind myself that psychology, by nature, is very inconsistent and unpredictable, and that "going backwards" doesn't necessarily mean that therapy isn't working, or that my T is thinking that she isn't helping me.
>*** Yeah. My T is so much better at finding the positive than me. And he never thinks I'm going backwards. He always sees it as a plateau, not as a dip - I've learned something in the in-between that stuck with me, even if I can't access it right then. And I know he's right about that too.
> I hope I was able to help a little bit. Take care!
*** Thanks!
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