Posted by Honore on May 6, 2007, at 10:01:28
In reply to Re: revenge fantasies » Happyflower, posted by crushedout on May 6, 2007, at 0:35:32
From what I've read, revenge hasn't really helped. And my concern would be that it won't.
The person you're trying to hurt may not be feeling any of the things you imagine-- because even though you believe that you're inflicting some sort of retribution on her, if you think about it more deeply, you're not. You (the person writing abusive or insulting comments on her blog)--not you, the person she badly mishandled a therapy relationship with-- is probably someone she thinks of quite differently from the way you imagine or want.
What scares me is that you're the one who's suffering, not her. And the suffering is self-inflicted.
What I fear is that the longer you pretend that you're inflicting some sort of pain on her, the longer you'll be lacerating yourself in this futile attempt to salve the hurt that someone inflicted on you long ago.
It's painful to read your posts, so I can only imagine the turmoil all this acting out of rage must cause in you.
For your own sake, I would try to step back and see if there isn't some way that you can take care of yourself, and make yourself more important than her-- rather than destroying yourself in this endless wish to hurt her and thereby to be made whole. It's not going to make you whole-- this revenge.
You're only continuing the relationship with her-- continuing to go through this pain in the hope that something somehow can be regained, which you've lost-- and which you never really had.
Honore
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