Posted by pegasus on April 13, 2007, at 22:32:40
In reply to Re: thoughts about detaching from old T » pegasus, posted by gazo on April 13, 2007, at 20:39:24
Hi gazo. It's a good question. It's because my new T and I have been working on resolving some of the issues from the old T's leaving, and we decided together that it would be really helpful if I could talk some particular things over with him. That parting keeps coming up in my new therapy, and I really want to put it to rest finally.
I had a session with him last September, in which we cleared up a big misunderstanding that had colored our last few sessions. Today I finally told him how angry I was/am at him, which I never could really do in person at the time. And I asked him to tell me how he had felt about ending my therapy. He *finally* said he was sorry about how painful it had all been for me, and how he had hated that my therapy had to end that way. He also told me that he really liked me, and that he had missed me and still does, and that he had not wanted to end our relationship, for my sake, and for his, even when he knew he was making the right decision. Not in exactly those words, but that's the message I got from him. It's very comforting. Very helpful to hear.
Actually, our time ran out at a really hard place in the conversation, so we agreed that we'd talk again next week. Ha ha. It feels so funny to be going to talk to him again in a week, just like old times.
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