Posted by scratchpad on April 5, 2007, at 17:30:57
In reply to Re: I'm trying hard to not get upset, posted by Racer on April 5, 2007, at 16:03:24
What usually happens with me is that I notice what happened - the circumstances of what has upset me, what triggered my response, whether it was out of proportion to the situation (hello! usually it is) - well after the event. And then I get upset about *that*. I Should Have done this, that, or the other thing. But, it is what it is. If I get upset, then I'm upset, and it's crazy-making for me to get more worked up over it, if that makes any sense.
What I'm working towards is noticing what I'm feeling as it's happening. Not to judge my reactions, but to notice, "wow, Scratchie, you are freaking out again!" It's OK to feel what we feel, it really is. My therapist tells me this all the time, and I am starting to believe her.
This approach is actually helping me a lot.
take care, Deneb.Scratchpad
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