Posted by muffled on January 8, 2007, at 22:10:24
In reply to Re: ***T relationship trigger***Negative thots » muffled, posted by mair on January 8, 2007, at 17:34:27
> I think what you're feeling is pretty typical with some of us. My T and I have been around and around this issue so many times. After endless discussions about this, these feelings are not as prevalent as they used to be.
**Sigh. I wish i was a faster learner. But its good to know it gets easier...
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> However, the issue of calling her has been particularly thorny**Yeah, thats always a tough one. I have called my T a few times, when I didn't know what else to do. She's OK bout calling mostly. Though I get the feeling she would rather I didn't, but that may just be me, I dunno.
> Still for all of her reassurances, and in spite of the positive evolution of our relationship, I found that I was really annoyed recently when she left a message on my voice mail at home and at work about rescheduling an appointment time and told me in the message that I should call and leave a message on her office voice mail to confirm the time. I'm sure the suggestion was pretty innocent and maybe she put it that way because she wasn't going to be home if I did call there. All I heard, loudly and clearly was the message of "don't call me at home," which is probably why in over 8 years of seeing her, I've only called her at home once.
**Yup, the phone things a tough one. My T has a cell, so I never have reason to call her home phone.
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> This is the type of issue that you really do need to discuss with your T.**Thanks Mair. So much to discuss, so little time!
I dunno if I talked to you b4 mair? I get confused sometimes. If not, then nice to meet you. If I have, well...nice to see you again!
Thanks for sharing your stories, it helps,
Muffled
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