Posted by annierose on June 20, 2006, at 21:43:08
In reply to Re: Spoke with T today » annierose, posted by gardenergirl on June 20, 2006, at 13:41:35
>>> I really hate it when my T moves straight into intepreting, though, before I'm ready. It does feel invalidating.<<<
I didn't feel quite like that. I'm not sure what you mean. What I was trying to say is that she was trying to be clear that she did indeed understand why that would be un-nerving, but my reaction felt stronger to her. So first she did all that validating stuff, and moved forward with her questions. It's those pesky therapy questions that bug me sometimes. She said, "I wouldn't ask the questions if I didn't want to understand. I'm trying to understand what it feels like to be in your shoes. I'm your therapist. We've been talking about anger lately and I'm trying to figure out where this ties into that, and where it's coming from."
I get tripped up because I think her questions are her way of asking, "Are you sure this is happening in the way that you say?"
I felt very validated here BTW --- I felt "normal" when my babble friends replied that they would feel bothered too. My T does want me to feel comfortable leaving her office. She gave me one of her, "Ahhh, I'm sorry" when I told her that on Fridays, I try not to talk about anything that would upset me because I didn't want her client to see me crying.
And she leaves for a 12 day vacation next week (but who's counting????) I know I'll be okay. I'm taking my daughter up north to camp for TWO entire weeks. I'm not sure who is more excited, her or me (doesn't that sound terrible???). She will have a BALL, on a beautiful lake, all girls, very pampered indeed.
Planning a visit anytime soon???
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