Posted by Karolina on May 28, 2006, at 0:07:42
In reply to frustrated with T..., posted by Karolina on May 25, 2006, at 23:18:54
I've been trying to write back personally to everyone but I can't get it to work right tonight for some reason. SoOo...thank you also susan, racer, orchid and happyflower!!
susan - i think if he had continued to stare down instead of just glancing, I probably would have gotten really uncomfortable at first. Then as pathetic as it sounds, I probably would have felt extremely flattered and maybe asked him what he was thinking about. He does stare at me a lot, like looks directly into my eyes, even when I'm done talking, but sometimes that feels pretty intimidating, I wish I knew what he was really thinking about...
racer - it did feel harsh when he had first said that to me but you're right, it was probably hard on his part to be honest and say that he didn't feel skilled enough to help me further, I had never really thought about that before. I now think that maybe he felt kind of backed into a corner, frustrated that I came home such a mess after we had already done so much work together. Like maybe he felt responsible for all of that happening, even though he shouldn't feel that way. He did say that he just wanted what was best for me, so I hope maybe he really does care and only meant that he wanted me to get the best treatment possible.
madeline - that really is a great and healthy way to look at your situation with him. Did he openly talk about his attraction to you? Sometimes I need to talk about sexual topics with my T and would even like to bring up my feelings towards *him* but my worst fear is that he would kick me out. I wish he and I could be able to still work on these issues within the boundaries, in a healthy way like you and your T but I do worry about him freaking out and saying he couldn't handle it.
Certain things my T has done has given me the idea that he *might* be attracted to me, but what would be true signs, or how do you figure out that they are attracted? That might sound like a lame question, but I am just feeling overwhelmed by these attraction issues with him right now. It might be more intense due to the fact that my boyfriend and I recently broke up = (
thanks again you guys for your responses.
-Karolina-
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